Telling the families our baby news

10 September 2015

Right from the start, we knew we wanted to tell our families our big news in person. We live far away from everyone, and opportunities to celebrate in person are few and far between. The good news? We knew we’d have our families together on back-to-back weekends. The bad news? Those weekends were not until weeks 15 and 16 of my pregnancy. Even though waiting that long was not ideal, and certainly not for everyone, we felt firmly that it was the right decision for us.

Especially since we’d waited so long, we wanted to make the announcements a little more special when they finally came, so we planned something different for each set. John’s family was up first! We were all gathered in New York City for Natalie and Joe’s baby shower, and went to brunch the next day with the whole Thomas clan. N+J opened a few more gifts, and one was ours. I ordered custom onesies from Zazzle with “Michigan 2016” for each of the three cousins in the sizes they’ll be next summer. We already have a family trip on the books, so it was a perfect opportunity on which to piggyback!


The reaction? TOTAL surprise. I think I could have knocked my brother-in-law over with a feather! Natalie and Joe provided great cover for us, I think, since everyone was focused on their impending arrival!

Next up was my family! Since my Dad’s birthday was later in the week, we wrapped up a package for him and handed it over once we were all gathered, saying it was something he’d want to enjoy for the rest of vacation. Inside was a faux North Carolina postcard that I’d made, and we taped our first ultrasound to the back.


The reaction? Not surprised at all! Actually, we were kind of like, do you guys understand what’s happening?! I’m not sure how they guessed, but they were nevertheless also excited :)

In addition to our families, we did share the news with a few dear couple friends in special ways. Nancy and Will were two of our most trusted confidantes as we walked together toward parenthood. When we went to visit Milly for the first time, we wrapped up half of a (cheesy) BFF necklace. It took them a few seconds to figure out what it meant, until I held up the other half!

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Finally, we had to share the news with our friends Sam and Graham. Sweet Sam was one of my favorite people for the last year or so, because she asked us literally every time we got together when we were thinking of having kids. Some people might have found this annoying, but as I explained, I craved it. Earlier this year I did some graphic design work for them in trade for a photo session, and ever since, they’ve been urging us to redeem our half of the bargain. I, of course, had big plans for this session, but wasn’t about to say anything! When we were ready to tell them, I made up this little collection of some of their newborn images with a note at the bottom: are you free January 2016? :)

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So keep an eye out for those beauties in a few months – grateful!

Since we had kept the news quiet for so long, it was definitely a little nervewracking, and kind of strange, to finally let the cat out of the bag. But, sharing the news with our loved ones in person and in special ways was totally worth it. And as a bonus (I guess?), it certainly has made the pregnancy zip along – seemingly right after the news became public, we reached the halfway mark, at twenty weeks!

I’m so curious: if you’ve ever shared the news about a pregnancy, when did you do it? I know twelve weeks is the standard, but I’ve heard of people shouting it from the rooftops at six weeks, and some not sharing until six months!

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September 10, 2015 8:48 am

Ahhh, I loved reading this! So funny that your families reacted so differently!

Obviously, I have never been pregnant and have therefore never shared this kind of news, but one of my friends recently told us she was pregnant and she was only about a month along. That said, it’s her third baby, so maybe the typical announcement time changes after #1?

September 10, 2015 9:51 am

I love your parents’ reaction to the news haha

We called our immediate family members about five minutes after I took the pregnancy test! They were all really surprised. One of my sisters-in-law thought we were joking in fact haha

We had planned to tell our friends and extended family members at the end of the first trimester, but then I started having some complications. So when a friend guessed that I was pregnant at 6 weeks, I came clean and was actually pretty relieved. We started telling more people after that. Even though we planned to wait, it was actually really nice to have people praying for us from the start, especially since I ended up having my appendix taken out at 11 weeks.

September 10, 2015 11:18 am

I love that you told your families in person, that was so thoughtful! We waited until 10 weeks to announce it publicly, but we told our parents right away!

Victoria B
September 10, 2015 11:36 am

This is so cute and sweet. I love hearing about how other people share the news and I also enjoy seeing the cute announcements on Facebook and stuff.

I have not had a baby, but my closest friend told me about her pregnancy when she was about a month along, but most of my other friends have told me when they were almost done with the first trimester.

September 10, 2015 11:38 am

This was definitely a great and well executed surprise!!! So fun and exciting and I was just giddy about your news for the rest of the week (still am, really).

September 10, 2015 12:20 pm

Love this! So happy for you dear friends. I think I am honored to be that nagging friend, but gosh – I am so sorry if that was annoying. I just know you are going to be the most wonderful parents! xoxo We love you guys!

September 10, 2015 2:14 pm

What a cute idea with the onesies! I love that! And as far as your dad not being surprised… isn’t it amazing that parents can just tell sometimes? They know us too well!

September 10, 2015 2:53 pm

This is awesome Em! Thank you for sharing!! Putting my thinking cap on to be clever like you!

September 12, 2015 8:31 am

We cannot wait to meet your little girl! I still remember gasping when we found out you guys were expecting (I even ran to tell my parents I was so excited:)! I’m so glad you waited to cash in your session ;) and I can’t wait to get your little one in front my camera. Love you guys!!

September 14, 2015 7:11 pm

So, so sweet! :)