Easy date idea: a dessert crawl

26 August 2016

John and I don’t go on a lot of dates, or we go on dates all the time — depends on how you figure it :) I generally don’t consider going on a hike, heading to a swimming hole, going to a concert or a movie, or even getting dressed up for a fancy dinner as a date. That all just seems like doing life with my husband. Maybe that’s what a date is when you’re married?? Anyway, we recently tried something new, and if you’re looking for a “date” idea, this might be it :)



Last weekend, we decided to do a dessert crawl in downtown Raleigh. We started at 5pm at our favorite patisserie, lucettegrace. Triangle friends, if you haven’t been here, absolutely put it on your list — SO GOOD. We split the Videri Chocolate Cream Pie (dark chocolate cremeux, almond shortbread, brown butter cocoa nib custard) the Blueberries + Cream (vanilla cheesecake, blueberry mousse, pistachio cake, almond cake, blueberry compote), and a citrus agua fresca.


We walked around the block a few times (June was in the stroller!) before heading to our next destination, Bittersweet. Their seasonal peach and blackberry cobbler (with pie crust “fries”!) was a delicious second course.


A few more laps, and we were ready for our last sweet of the evening, at Treat. They have a kiddie scoop that is practically thimble-sized, making it the perfect final stop on our sugar quest (though John opted for two scoops!!).

By 7pm, we were back in the car and headed home to tuck June into bed. Once she was asleep, we ate a small (healthy) dinner. The novelty of eating dessert first, combined with walking Raleigh’s summery streets, made for a fun evening out (and, no babysitter was required).

I’m curious: If you’re in a long-term relationship, what do you consider a “date”? Every fun activity? Maybe an activity that one person plans? Or one that simply has advance planning? Something expensive? Something fancy? I’d love to hear your criteria!

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August 26, 2016 8:57 am

My husband and I view what would be considered a “date” as, like what you said, doing life together. We enjoy evening strolls with our pup and drinking coffee together on the weekends. Lately, we’ve been dreaming about and planning our future home purchase and family plans; substance over style. Lovely photos! I may have to try a dessert crawl in the near future.

August 26, 2016 9:04 am

Dessert crawl?! You are speaking my language. Interesting question about what exactly qualifies as a date. My husband and I spend a lot of time together but to me, a date is an activity out of the normal day-to-day routine. Going for a run, grocery shopping or walks around the neighborhood don’t count for me. It doesn’t need to be fancy, but it should be something a little special.

August 26, 2016 10:10 am

I consider a date as something planned ahead and slightly out of our normal day-to-day things where we have time to just be Brandon and Allison, together. Now with an eight-month old, date nights include a babysitter in order for this together time to happen.

August 26, 2016 12:10 pm

My boyfriend and I usually just consider dates as anything that requires us to go out of town. We go to the movies, out to eat, and things like that but we never actually call them “dates” unless it’s a road trip! I have no idea why we do this lol!

August 26, 2016 2:11 pm

Yum!! I think we consider our dates anything particularly out of the ordinary that we do just the two of us. Tonight, that means going out for an appetizers-only meal at Driftwood, but yesterday, it meant going to the grocery store at 9:30 PM specifically for chips and ice cream *insert monkey covering eyes emoji here, ha!*

August 29, 2016 10:30 am

A dessert crawl sounds SO fun! A date for us means time together without the kiddos, which is very rare.

Victoria B
August 30, 2016 9:18 am

This sounds so fun! I think I will try to plan one of these out for my hubby and I since we very rarely do desserts. A date to me is anything out of our routine. We don’t actually do a lot of dates because we enjoy our routine of living life together, but we try to do one a month!

August 31, 2016 1:29 pm

Anything we can do just the two of us without baby!

September 14, 2016 8:54 am

This is the best idea – you guys are geniuses! (Also, June goes out to eat and travels so much, I wonder if she’d consider penning a guest column on Map & Menu?!)